AMWF (Asian Male & Western Female) still rare?
Why are AMWF relationships still so rare? This is Part 2 of a series where a reader of mine, originally from Hong Kong, is giving his view of this problem.
After living in Australia country for 10 years, he has gathered enough knowledge and life experience to make a realistic description of what he has seen and encountered in Down Under regarding AMWF.
Finding an Australian Girlfriend is Dry and Bitter
“The whole experience of finding an Australian girlfriend is difficult or even frustrating. We know we can be a better boyfriend/husband because we truly respect, love, take care of our partner. White women won’t consider dating Asian men even they know their partner is going to cheat or they are going to divorce. Asian men can actually give white women a happier marriage but we have never been given a fair chance we deserve to have. I know some Caucasian men in person and seriously don’t think they are better than us (It is a rational statement and I am not jealous of them).
Asian Men Offer Good Values
Firstly, Asian men in general (of course there are always good, bad people and exceptions in each race) are more loyal to their partner. We take family values and relationships more seriously. I know some Caucasians who have had their third marriage, leaving their children to grow up in single parent family, or have a few kids but still haven’t got married. This is uncommon and close to unacceptable in Hong Kong.
Asian men are less likely to cheat on their partner.
“Asian men are more faithful and loyal to their partner.”
In Australia and some other Western countries, white men go to a pub and chat girls up. If it goes well, they will start kissing and even end up sleeping together.
The movie Vicky Cristina Barcelona is a reflection of this culture. Vicky and Cristina are good friends. They travel to Barcelona and meet a Spanish artist. Vicky sleeps with the artist just before she gets married and Christina sleeps with him as well. But the artist still loves his ex-wife.
Linda: I really have to add something here… I wouldn’t say that most Asian men don’t tend to cheat as much. Among many Asian men visiting a prostitute seems to be more “OK” than in Western countries. I do think, however, that in Asian cultures being unfaithful is regarded highly unappropriate, e.g. it is even illegal in Korea and can be punished in court. Nevertheless, I think Asian men cheat as much as others, especially in this new generation of wealthy and extremely rich people who don’t care about feelings.
Asian people normally have a secure finance situation.
“Asian men know how to save money and don’t spend it all at once.”
We will make sure we put a portion of our income into our savings account in order to prepare for anything unexpected. Some people in Australia spend a large amount of their hardly earned money on alcohol, use their credit card to buy unnecessary stuff and only make minimum repayments. They often need to wait for their payday to pay off expenses.
Asian people normally have enough savings to support their living even if they stop working for months.
Asian men value education and hard work.
We are taught to study and work hard for a better future. Caucasians in Australia always look for a work-life balance and holiday. Asian men, especially those who live overseas, work extremely hard in order to establish themselves in society. We are willing to put extra effort for better a future and hopefully give our children the best education possible.
What’s Wrong With AMWF Relationships in Australia?
Singer Lorde with her Asian boyfriend James.
All the good Asian values I mentioned are completely useless when it comes to finding a girlfriend in Australia. Most Caucasian women in Australia look for a “trophy boyfriend” so that they can show off in front of others. They think it is not cool and not awesome to have an Asian boyfriend. The image of Asian men projected by the media makes Australian girls very embarrassed to date or even just make friends with us.
Also, some people in Australia have “all Chinese are bad” mindset. When they see anything about China and Chinese (except Chinese food), they will automatically switch to a “negative mode”. In their mind, they believe they are better than us, so having an Asian boyfriend means they are going backwards.
Australian girls interpret our good values as boring and predictable. They need more drama when it comes to dating. Also, they love bad boys and perceive them as wild, sexy and exciting. They would rather get drunk every weekend with white guys than having a progressive and stable life with Asian men. We are not good at playing the role of a bad boy.
White women in Australia cannot find the strength they need in Asian men. Aussie girls do not think Asian men are physically appealing. They want their boyfriend to be tall and muscular and hold them like a little girl. That’s another reason why they are not attracted to us.
Last but not least, when your friends and everyone around you think Asian men are undateable, it creates pressure to force you to make the same conclusion or you will be considered as weird and strange.”
Linda: HOWEVER, not all Australian girls are like that! Look at singer Lorde! She is dating Asian guy James Lowe! They are so adorable together! Thumbs up! [Thank you Suigetsu for pointing out that Lorde is from New Zealand.. OOPS]
Do you agree with the opinion of the writer? Have you experienced similar things?
